Connecting with older kids can be an intricate dance of emotion and distance. Mama learns quickly that she may not be the center of her child's universe anymore when that teen need for independence takes over. As a mom, I'm happy to see my children grow in maturity and explore their individuality. Sometimes it is all about stepping back and letting the child figure something out.
But then there are those days, when my teenage son or even pre-teen son inch closer to me for comfort or answers. With a quiet look or a request, they will look to me, and I know to stop my day to day running and inch a little closer to them. I'll take every one of those inches. I won't fight or yearn for their undivided attention. They will need to navigate through this world as individuals, but they can be assured that Mama will be only an "inch" away if they need anything. Even if we're not together in a set time or place, my children need to know that my love, support, and guidance sit somewhere within them to help and nurture through all life throws at them.
I appreciate every inch of connection that I gain during those unhurried moments of time with my kids. Kids and parents are holding onto that life rope together, inches apart on the line, but connected by inseparable love.