Far from the picture perfect wedding, my special day had its ups and downs. Here is a list of some things I would re-do if I got the chance to go back in time to my wedding in September 1993:
1. Get a dress that allows for dancing and bathroom breaks. After hours and hours of trying on practically every dress in the shop, I decided to go with one of those beautifully beaded dresses with the HUGE train. At the reception, it took a team of six to figure out how to correctly bustle the dress. Even though the dress was lovely, I wish I could have actually MOVED around it in more easily. Lots of swaying back and forth during the fast dances. Forget about trying to maneuver into a bathroom stall! If my memory is correct, I don't think I went to the bathroom once during the whole reception. Fear of messing the dress or falling on my face must have scared the need to pee right out of me. I think I got married just before they made those great sleek wedding dresses that are made for dancing.
2. Get my makeup done professionally and run the other way from hairspray. My mom's bathroom lighting is not very reliable when wondering if I put on too much blush. If I recall, I think my hubby-to-be and I wanted to save some money so we cut out getting a makeup professional. Gratefully, my sister helped me make some last minute adjustments just before getting in the limo. I did go to our local beauty parlor to get my hair done. I have curly and sometimes unruly long hair. Assuming that this hair stylist knew all about perfect wedding hair, I went along with her idea to use tons of hair spray and bobby pins. My hair didn't move all day, but taking out all those bobby pins out of hair spray plastered hair wasn't a fun beginning to my wedding night. If I could do it again, all natural would be the way to go.
3. Don't give the honeymoon airline tickets to my forgetful brother-in-law. My hubby-to-be told his brother to safeguard our tickets until the end of the reception. Without telling us, he decided to take his girl friend to Long Island, NY a half hour before the reception ended. He was nowhere to be found when we needed to go. Guests are checking restrooms, other ballrooms and the parking lot. Typical of my brother-in-law, he had an impulse moment and decided to run off to who knows where with his girlfriend. Gratefully, a half hour into his little joy ride, he realized that the tickets were still in his tux jacket. He got back to the reception hall to find a search party already starting to form.
4. Don't hire a hungry DJ. We did make allowances for our DJ and photographer to have something to eat during the reception. We didn't expect to see our DJ having a bite here and there throughout the night. Every time you turned around, it looked like he was chewing something. A couple of times he missed his cue to change to the next song. We had to go too many times to make sure he was handling his job and keeping us dancing. Also, some of his song choices were way out there. I say to my hubby often, "Where did we find that guy?"
5. Learn the Electric Slide and maybe a new wedding song. It was the 90's and the Electric Slide was the big dance at weddings. I eventually got the hang of it. My poor hubby-to-be was all left feet and couldn't wait for the song to be over. Maybe we should have stuck with the chicken dance :) Again, being the 90's, we listened to Michael Bolton. Well, at least I did. Remember his shaggy, curly hair? I'm sure some of you will admit that you fell for his swooning songs. We picked the Bolton song, "Now That I Found You." It is a beautiful and touching song, but now I wish I picked something cooler. If only Norah Jones was not a toddler back then, maybe I would have had "Come Away With Me" playing as a circled the dance floor in my big bell of a dress :)
Overall, our wedding day was full of fun, laughs and great memories. I tend to make everything "serious" a big joke, so it is probably fitting that my wedding day was not in any way close to perfect. At least, I picked the right guy to marry :)