And I thought pushing out these 4 kids was difficult! Mama/referee job is way more exhausting for me. I have good kids, but they sure know how to stir things up with each other. Maybe I have to see these turbulent pockets in our day as the growing pains that I have to deal with as a mom.
I appreciate the silence. I can feel how the downtime helps to arm me emotionally to take on the next mini battle of the boys that will inevitably erupt at the dinner hour.
Creativity always seems to serve me well when I'm in a moment of stress. I think it's time for me to creatively referee the next battle. The boys don't know what is in store for them. This mama wants to change things up and redirect all that troublesome energy. Now to come up with an idea.
If only my boys had a desire to grace the stage, then I would see a constructive outlet for the drama. Maybe that's the approach. I'll have them role play when they get in an argument. I can just feel the eyes rolling when I suggest this resolution strategy.
Will they humor me? Probably not. I guess I'll have to continue the divide and conquer approach until I think of another strategy or they are in college.
Quick question to all you veteran moms: Is there such a thing as an easy age once kids start pushing away and pushing each other? Right now in my house, 14, 12 and 8 are rough and tumble ages crashing into each other all the time. Is it all that testosterone? I can feel their need to outdo the other in words or actions. All this competitiveness seems to be filling the air whenever they begin an activity or engage in a debate. I'll keep repeating this mantra as the boys get into it: "Kids can be wonderfully entertaining and draining simultaneously. You will miss this craziness soon enough."
Enjoying this short time of silence. The gang will be arriving soon. Patience, please rain down on me.