Thursday, September 23, 2010

2,758 emotional "phases" of childhood & counting and a battle weary mama NEEDING her chocolate bliss

Working through the emotional ups and downs of childhood can be an exhausting task for a mother. My little gang seem to be dragging me along for this bumpy roller coaster ride these past 2 weeks. I have to get my armor ready for when my oldest son decides to share his not so sweet mood swing with me. Wish he had some kind of mood ring hat on so that I could watch for the color change and know not to approach the teen volcano. My two younger boys are their usual rambunctious selves with a bit of whining, wrestling, and debating thrown in. My princess diva loves to speak her mind and let me know that she has an opinion about whether it's a good time for a trip to the supermarket or to the bathtub. I think I'm going to promote her from Princess to Empress. She is turning into the grand sovereign of this house anyway.

I realize that they are all working through different developmental phases (of course, sometimes simultaneously turbulent ones), and I am trying to approach each potentially explosive encounter with patience and understanding. Please don't ask me about my success record with this approach. I have the best intentions, but stress and fatigue can push me to have my own little meltdown. Those are my chocolate craving moments :) I think I better open a chocolate factory at this point. Anyway, I'm gearing up for the boys' return home from school. Happily, we don't have to rush off to any soccer fields today. I'm hoping that the homework isn't too involved or stressful. I just want to have a somewhat peaceful afternoon with the kiddos. This mama does not need all that drama! When I think that I have problems, I just think about the latest Maury Povich show with screaming and brawling families. Talk about drama. LOL.

19 comments:

kisatrtle said...

I hear you and I think we have all been there. Eat some chocolate....a little bit won't hurt ya

Angela said...

Yep, right on point with this one. Here's to a peaceful day for you. I agree with kisatrtle's comment above, and if you don't mind, have a piece for me too!:)

Kim said...

I'm starting to need those chocolate moments more and more - only for me it's ice cream:) I hope your afternoon goes drama free and you are so right - I need to cherish these easy conversations - I'm not looking forward to the mood swings of teenagehood.

I've thought of calling you too but it's as if the kids become possessed as soon as I pick up the receiver. Soon!

SwedishJenn said...

Hang in there and have a big piece of white chocolate for me!

Joanne said...

Maybe have a coffee too :)

Here's to hoping you are pleasantly surprised by a peaceful, quiet phase this afternoon, a phase that must be somewhere in those 2758. A couple have to be tranquil, right?

Gerri said...

When things got crazy at my house I always used to send myself to my room...lol. The first time I did it the kids really didn't know what to think. Then they got used to it and they got the hint. Whenever there was a little too much attitude (and believe me when I say, you are lucky you only have one girl) or they were fighting or whatever, I would just very quietly say, "I'm going to my room, don't bother me, I'll be back in a few minutes". In my case, it was good for me and for them, for me to remove myself from the situation, whatever it was. They got the hint that Mom was close to a melt down and I got to breath a little. It usually worked and when it didn't...I used chocolate also. In my opinion, it really is the best medicine for everything. I hope you have some blissfull afternoons ahead..you deserve it.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

I well remember mine when younger thinking they knew what was best for them, I got over that but somewhere along the line they seem to think what's good for ME.......I can't win.

Yvonne,

Mari said...

I'm not into drama either and we had a time or two of it when my kids were younger. :)
It gets better though! Hang in there!

Jenners said...

It has got to be hard to have children at all different phases of development ... I'm sure it is most challenging. I only have one and the only way I survive is knowing that "this phase will not last forever."

The Write Girl said...

Hang in there!! From reading your posts, I can tell you are very sympathetic, kind, nurturing, and funny. Those are all important qualities. Wishing you a happy and less stressful weekend.

T Rex Mom said...

I think if you came up with a teenage mood ring, you'd be set. It would become a selling sensation. Great idea!

I am, as always, charmed by your little princess - I mean Empress!

Hang tight. Oh, yes, and go eat some chocolate.

Monica said...

oh man, i feel for you.

at these times, yes, nothing but chocolate will do.

Valerie said...

I'm trying to remember what I did at those awful times ... was it wine or was it chocolate? You know, I'm sure I was NEVER like that when I was an adolescent!

Scott said...

from my experience, parenting is definitely not for the faint of heart... prayers for you offered up to my Higher Power... for all parents and all kids :-)

Vicky said...

I'm so glad I am not alone. I both dread and look forward to the boys arrival home from school. You just never know what will erupt through the front door :) But I try to stay grounded in the fact that one day, no kiddos will come home through that door everyday, and I know I will miss the crazy and turbulent times. But some days not even that works :)

glnroz said...

But, aint it great..lol.. Do you really like chocolate? I have notice the reference before.. lol,, glenn

JamericanSpice said...

I will help you with the chocolate factory. :) And Maury...think wife swap :)

Susan Fobes said...

You know, that's just what I crave most days-peace, and maybe a little nap... I still don't know how you can handle four kids. I was one of four and I admire my mother greatly these days!

Gerri said...

I think we all need a word that means "not now" and that magical word would cause all the drama-nonsense to cease..immediately.