Saturday, April 24, 2010

I'm overwhelmed and unsure

I take care of things in my home. I like to make plans and keep us on track. The job hunt is not going anywhere. The silent phone and the light email from job inquiries are heavily weighing on me and my husband. We're still battle weary from our last job hunt two years ago. We know that it could be a long and stressful ride to the next job.

I'm trying to keep positive. I like to brainstorm. Each day, I try and think of new directions or new ideas. It is important that we feel proactive about the job hunt. The tough part is getting a hiring manager to find us worthy of an interview considering all the applicants fighting for the same position. We're hoping that someone sees what my husband has to offer. In the technology world, we're finding that my husband's skill set and management experience may not be valued as much as before. We feel like dinosaurs or obsolete at the ripe age of 41.

The severance pay ends this week. Gratefully, unemployment will kick in. I'm not sure what to do. It helps me to share my worries with all of you. Your support keeps me smiling :) I need to keep positive for the family as much as possible. I'm trusting in God that all with work out. I know it will.

I hear the kids giggling right now. They are happy on this beautiful Saturday. That is so important to me.

Love to you all. -- Kelly

39 comments:

Mari said...

I'm sorry you are still dealing with this. I know God has a plan too, but we humans have a hard time with waiting for His time. I'm praying for a job!

Randi said...

My thoughts have been with you these past few weeks. [Luckily my husband was spared during the last layoff at his workplace last month of over 2/3 of the workforce. We're still nervous though.]
Keep us posted. I am glad you are able to stay so positive. I am sure that helps so much.

Dani said...

This is so stressful for you - but I'm glad the kids are happy - weren't those the days? I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Gerri said...

May your children's happiness give you joy. Continued favor in your search. God will work it out. He ALWAYS does. It just might not be the pathway that you expect. peace my friend...

Vicky said...

Sometimes our blessings become so much more clear to us in the "lean" times and the trying times. I always feel that if my family is healthy, we have a roof over our heads, food to eat, and love, then we are doing well.

Sending love and support! Keeping you in my prayers and know that I am here for you anytime!

Don said...

An encouraging and knowledgeable author I read has a website: http://www.harveymackay.com/ Click on the columns tab for some recent brainstorming for job-seekers.

What Color is your Parachute helped me out 15 years ago... and the author wrote a small book titled something like "Guerilla Tactics in the Job Market." It's a trimmed down version centered around getting your foot in the door. (Like Mackay's more recent book.)

And... sounds like you're doing a lot of things right in your attempt to navigate difficult waters. "I will never leave you nor forsake you..." is a good promise to hold on to during darkish times. (I've used it.)

Don

Caroline said...

Oh Kelly...I wish there was something more I could do... I know this is not easy. But take it one day at a time. A door will open. In the meantime, do a little something everyday. And I will put good energy out there for your family. xoxo

shabby girl said...

We are going through very similar feelings. Our situations are different, but when you mentioned that you're waiting for the phone to ring, trying to come up with new ways to stay positive, and uplifting for your family, all I could do was nod.
I keep reminding myself, too, that I need to keep turning it over to God. We're doing the best we can, now it's up to Him.
Playing with those giggly kids will surely help! Hugs to you, my friend!

Mandy's Life After 30 said...

I continue to think of you and your wonderful family! If it were me, I'd probably just stay as busy as possible. And as crazy as it may sound, I'd probably take a vacation and play local tourist in my hometown. I'd research every free thing possible in the city and try to do them. Immerse myself in culture. Get out and talk to people. Anything to keep my mind and soul occupied from worry and stress. And who knows, maybe the walks in a museum or an exchange of words in a library could lead to a job for your husband or you. You never know! Anyway, I'm hoping for the best alongside you. Much hugs and love from me to you!

ClassyChassy said...

It seems unemployment has hit so many people right now. I was 'downsized' from my job position in 2008 and have sent out resumes and job apps several times each week since then, and have only gotten 4 interviews. And then - they hire "high energy" (younger) people with NO EXPERIENCE!!! And when I apply for other jobs that I have no experience in, they tell me I need to be experienced. Go figure. I think it is the age factor, even though they cannot discriminate. My unemployment will run out in 1 week, and I am told I may qualify for the last emergency benefit which will be for 20 weeks (10 more paychecks from the government). It is hard to keep trying to remain positive, believing that God has a plan....

SwedishJenn said...

Thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Oh to be young, innocent and happy. I know it's hard (as I've been there before) but just when you think all hope is lost, a window opens and the sunshine comes streaming through. May that window open for you soon and God Bless xoxo

Creativity!! said...

Don't Worry Dear :) :) God Will Definitely Help You!!!!

shiny mamaof6 said...

Wishing I could help you out in some way. Sending you much love and hope today. Stay in the moment as much as you can. Breathe in hope and breathe out fear.

Susan Fobes said...

I really wish I could make it all go away for you. There are so many people who are going through hard times right now (I also have a co-worker friend battling for her life-chemo didn't work so she has had to leave work for an operation...)It makes you feel helpless, like what are friends for if we can't take the pain away? Please know that I have been thinking about you!

Ginger Jasper said...

keep yur chin up and as you say trust that things will come right. I so hope so and will keep you in my thoughts.. I so loved the way you said you could hear your children laughing and that feels good. It is good and you are blessed.. Things will come right.. Love arol and GJ xx

Joanne said...

I've often found that things just don't happen the way we think they will, sometimes surprisingly so. So I'm hoping that you are pleasantly surprised shortly and that good news comes into your life very soon! And children are so wonderful in their happiness, enjoy.

Diane said...

Praying for the right job at the right time for you. :O)

www.dianeestrella.com

Teri said...

Oh Kelly. So very sorry for your stress and worry. I can assure you I am sending all my positive thoughts and wishes to you and your family. I will stay tuned for whatever you want to share with us. I know how important it is to have friends in the blog world. We're here.

christy rose said...

If only we could be as careless as children. Careless in His care! I am lifting you and your family up in prayer today Kelly

Jenners said...

I'm so sorry you guys are going through this. It sucks ... there is just no way to sugarcoat it. And I'm sure you are just worried sick and frustrated. I'm thinking good thoughts for you ... hang in there. It will be OK at some point and you'll get there together. Hang in there. Hugs.

bel said...

We're all pulling for you, Kelly. Something will come through. HG and I went through this not too long ago in a field that was hemorrhaging jobs and not even remotely hiring and we made it. I am sure something will come through for you too!

T Rex Mom said...

T Rex is in saying prayers with his dad now - "Blessings...Ms. Kelly" - hugs and prayers your direction.

Bettyann said...

Peace and Joy to you and your famaily...My husband was out of work last year and felt the same..he is 58..we are all such responsible and productive people and it is very to be in that spot..take care..

Ken Devine said...

If there is comfort to be taken from your current experiences regarding unemployment it's that you are part of something not of your making and that it isn't personal. It isn't a reflection of your husband's qualities or skills, nor is it permanent or bereft of special times or opportunities...perhaps not the opportunities you want right now, but opportunities nonetheless. It seems to me that you have blessings that others have yet to acquire. The wind will eventually change direction so don't lower your head or think all hope is gone.

I admire the way you are sharing your fears. They say (and I think there is some truth in it) that a problem shared is a problem halved.

If your readers have anything to do with it, it will be a problem gone. I think also that you are doing everything possible to reach that same aim.

Valerie said...

Don and Ken's comments are so sensible and valuable, Kelly, I cannot add to them. But I continue to pray that all will turn out for the best; whichever avenue you walk down I hope there's a golden opportunity at the end. Hugs from me.

G said...

Sending out positive vibes from this slice of the blog world. I know from personal experience that it can be a tough go, but I truly believe that you and your husband will be able to pull through this in no time at all.

He & Me + 3 said...

Your attitude is good even though you are stressed. Hang in there. Times are tough but God does have something for you all.
I am praying.

Nina P. said...
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Nina P. said...

As God watches over the Sparrows, I know He watches over you.
A friend of mine kept losing her job to downsizing and outsourcing. She kept changing her "career" to stay employed. After 5 changes within the same company and 18 years of employment, she lost her job. After the normal grieving process whenever you loose something you care about (even a job) she started rethinking her options. She took some adult education courses at the local high school to learn about computers, job searching etc... She volunteered at different places to see what she liked and took a low paying job as a pharmacy technician to get insurance and pay basic bills. She fell in love with health care (a complete opposite of what she did the past 18+ years). At age 53 she just finished her 2 year degree in X-ray and is now employed at a local hospital, with good benefits and decent pay. Moral of the story: You're never too old to change directions, Don't ever give up, and Keep the Faith. God is watching over you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Blessings to you and yours. Love and Light, Nina P

Jenn@the loves of jenn said...

I'm so sorry that you and your family have to go through this. I pray that your husband is able to find a position soon. I know that everything happens for a reason but sometimes it's so hard to understand the reason while you're going through it. Blessings to you Kelly - I'll be praying!

Michelle said...

It is definitely a challenge to find a job in this market, but I know he will. I love how you've made it a partnership. I think that's really the right idea. Have you tried tweeting it yet? ;) Keep faith, and it will work for you. I know it will! *hugs*

Becca said...

Well, it looks like we will be joining you in the job search pretty soon. It's absolutely terrible! I sure do hope that something good opens up for your hubby soon! HUGS!

glnroz said...

Not sure I have known a more positve person. In that, you will also succed in this situation. Thank you for offering to be the "Depot",, did you get my email.. I used the address on your profile.. thanks, glenn

Gerri said...

You continue to be in my thoughts and in my prayers. I know God will bless you with something special.

Herb of Grace said...

So sorry the job hunt is rough :( I felt almost guilty that ours was over so quickly... I know most people aren't that lucky. I'll be praying for y'all...

Beverley Baird said...

I am so sorry to hear about the tough job hunt. I am adding you to my prayer list!

Wendy said...

hang in there kelly! hopefully something will come up ....something better than before! sending positive vibes your way!

Dan Felstead said...

Septembermom...I am right there with you. It becomes harder and harder to keep up the self esteem. Remember your own words of wisdom...and wise they are...."Chisel worth out of now"...keep you chin up and hopefully things will turn for the better. We are praying.

Dan

Owning the Words said...

Hello beautiful. Stopping by to see how you are since I haven't heard from you in a bit. And I see why. I know what you and your family are going through (been there) but keep pushing forward. Something will come through. Maybe he should go back to get his Master's degree in another profession. Just a thought. But at least he has something coming in until a new prospect comes through. *HUGS*

Oh yeah, it's me Sharla. School is over for me and I have time to blog again. I miss it. I know I'm weird.